A wedding can be romantic and beautiful, but first you have to plan the details and the devil is in the details.
We have all heard stories about family or in-laws or friends having their feelings hurt during the planning process and sometimes this makes things uncomfortable on the wedding day.
Many of my clients tell me that because this is their day, they want to do things their way.
I agree, but I think it is important to plan ahead for these types of challenges, which can avoid any unnecessary hurt feelings and be costly in the end.
Here are a few of my top tips to avoid the most common pitfalls. I hope they help. xo
Try and avoid having a cash bar at all costs…pun intended. Most of your guests will spend a lot of money to come to your wedding. Costs include their travel, time off from work, their outfit(s), your gift(s) and their hotel accommodations. If you are not able to provide a full bar, then please consider beer, wine and champagne. We have had clients choose their favorite alcohol and have the venue create a fun signature drink. I think it is better to have quality than quantity, therefore, if possible try and cut down the guest list.
Please don’t avoid having one in place. Weather can be tricky and it can go from being very hot to cool in a matter of days. Even in beautiful sunny Southern California, I always have an alternative plan, so I know that all the bases are covered.
Most venues and caterers will estimate at least 10 % of your guests will be vegetarians. We always recommend that our clients have a few vegetarian appetizers and one vegetarian entree, so 10% of your friends and family don’t go hungry. XO
Three words – don’t do it! Unless you want to be embarrassed or risk ruining your wedding day, please plan out who will make the toasts. One other recommendation, never allow an intoxicated person or persons to toast at your wedding. Several years ago, one of my favorite couples insisted that one of the bridesmaids give a toast. I pleaded my case for them not to let her do it because she was really hammered, but they said it would be okay. The intoxicated bridesmaid trashed the bride in front of 300 guests, which included the bride’s mother and new in-laws. After a few minutes, the groom had her mic cut off…the whole incident was heartbreaking to watch.
Don’t assume that your guests will know how to find the venue. Sometimes GPS and MapQuest get it wrong. We recommend placing a map card inside the invitation, so your guests will find the venue with ease and your ceremony can begin on time.
Have a great day!